James H. Hooks

In the first part we discussed that the best way to guarantee failure to to blame someone else for them. At the end we recognized that the first step before you can move toward success is to take responsibility for yourself, state of being, and future.

Now we can move on the the next step in guaranteed Failure.
Hold a grudge and bitterness against someone you feel has hurt you. They both come under the catagory of unforgiveness.

What does that have to do with anyhing to do with it? It has everything to do with it.

We have to ask exactly who does unforgiveness hurt? Ah, we think it really hurts the person that we will not forgive. That is far from the truth. The ONLY person hurt by unforgiveness is the person holding it.

Unforgiveness does a great deal more DAMAGE to the vessel to which it is stored than to the object that it is poured.
It is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die.

You may say that how can you forgive them, that would nullify what they did and leave them off the hook. Not true! If you do or do not forgive a person does not change the other person, only you. There is a reason why the Lord says, vengeance is mine saith the Lord. As long as we do not forgive someone we are willingly placing ourselves under their bondage. We are letting them have control of our own happiness and has a negative effect on our lives even effecting the way we treat others that have nothing to do with the issue. When we forgive someone we release ourselves from their bondage. They have no more control over us. Also Keeping unforgiveness is putting a plug in the pipeline that God uses to bring blessings into our lives and listen to this. It will stop others from forgiving us, even if we think we deserve forgiveness.
Remember what the Bible says about sewing seeds, we will reap what we sew. We will reap the fruit of whatever seed we sew. So, if we sew unforgiveness we will receive unforgiveness. If we sew forgiveness we will receive forgiveness.